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I am not ready to have my greys show. I have zero desire to grey gracefully.

Recently, Jason and I spent an evening with some good friends. Sitting and chatting in their home was a blessing; I had not done that in a long while. Our friend made a sweet comment on my grey hair. I was not ready. I will travel out soon and I postponed dyeing my hair until I’m ready for my trip. Plus, I have a lot on my plate. Yet, when I see women who have gone all grey, like Chef Carla Hall, I admire them. She looks absolutely beautiful.

But not yet. I want the wisdom that comes with it, but I am not ready to reflect that wisdom on my hair ๐Ÿ˜Š For now, it will be wraps, wigs and hats๐Ÿ˜€ย 

This year, I resolved to fill my life with mostly doing what I love. Writing. Speaking. Teaching workshops on mindset. Recording the Living Inside Out Podcast. I enjoy spending time with my loved ones and making our home conducive to thriving. I don’t want to get to the end of my life and see that only a tiny part of it was given to what I was created to do, and the rest was dedicated to things I thought I was meant to do.

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Channels TV Crew

With that, I have begun a new journey of transformational speaking across Africa. I still run my baby furniture brand, but doing what I was created to do trumps everything else. It’s interesting how willing people are to help. I sent out messages to several friends and acquaintances about my new goal, and the response was heartwarming; the willingness to help and introduce me to relevant contacts has had me on an exciting rollercoaster ride. I will keep you informed of how that is going.

Self-consciousness really reared its head to hold me back, but thankfully, I prevailed. Late last year, God took me on a short journey back to show me how it had been sabotaging me. When I tried to send out my request for assistance, self-consciousness told me that I would be bothering people; they would wonder who I thought I was and ignore my request. It is one of the biggest thieves of destiny.

This new path is literally starting a new business. It requires building my personal brand through PR, establishing a good foundation for operations, product development and more. Like any new business, there are multiple facets to it. I am enjoying the PR bit because I get to meet wonderful people like Teniola Oyetayo, a presenter and producer for Channels TV Nigeria, and Jessica, the production assistant. And I love doing it from a more personal perspective than I have done for The Baby Cot Shop. It feels more intimate and requires a deeper level of vulnerability.

On another note, I have been asked to do a PR workshop for small business owners. Is this something you could use? Send an email to let me know.

I will speak about self-consciousness in the next Living Inside Out Podcast episode.

In the meantime, have you downloaded and started on your journal? I created a 30-day Introspective & Self Coaching Journal to help you extract and use the goodness buried in you. Sign up to have your copy emailed to you. It will put you on my mailing list, where you get juicy, behind-the-scenes life lessons that will transform your thoughts and actions. It’s time for new results ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿพ


Till next time, live from the inside out! โค๏ธ