Recognising the Lessons that Show up on your Path
Years ago, I learned to stop searching for the exit door whenever I found myself in a dark place. I considered the possibility of a lesson, a hidden gem and I was supposed to find it. I believe every challenge comes to teach us something, and we will learn the lesson when we stop running and start seeking. In this episode, I share the mindsets to adopt when going through the fire to come away wiser so you do not waste the trial. I use the promise God gave Abraham that everywhere the soles of his feet shall tread upon belonged to him. The land had healthy trees that bore delicious fruit; it flowed with milk and honey and thorns and thistles, as is the case with all land. But it all belonged to Abraham to do what he wanted with it. Have a mindset of ownership- understand that the entirety of your life is yours, including the ugly and the bad. This mindset allows you to embrace and use the challenge as a tool and not see it as a burden you have to escape from Pray for progress, not relief- it is possible to use the pain as payment for a future gain. Instead of seeking relief, allow the pain to be your investment for the wisdom and liberation you’ll receive later. Is not life more than food? You are made up of many layers and facets. Don’t exalt this momentary trouble to a god-like status and worship it. There is so much more to you than this minuscule situation. Employ intrinsic and extrinsic motivation- There will be times you cannot sufficiently move into action; in those moments, look around you and use whatever you find to motivate you. It is your land, after all. Resources: Evolving through pain: Episode #45 Living Inside Out Le Shuttle Matthew 6:25: Is not life more than food? “That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? Chelsea in Bloom 23rd – 28th May Connect Have you subscribed to this podcast? Why don’t you do so on your favourite podcast app? Then head to Youtube.com/toksaruoture to watch and subscribe to my show, Living Inside Out. I would LOVE to connect with you on social; let’s stay in touch at toksauoture.com and hang out on Instagram- @toksaruoture and on Facebook, Living Inside Out.
Recognising the Hindrances to your Dreams
Have you ever been in a place where you are clear on what you want, but unseen forces seem to stop you from achieving it? In this episode, we look at how our response to our emotions can determine whether or not we manifest our dreams. Once you have a clear picture of where you are headed, and you can get yourself to believe that the picture is valid and you deserve to enjoy it, you now need to recognise the hindrances that can stop you, and I share these three: your reluctance to experience pain- has the threat. of pain stopped you in your path? Staying in your feelings- Indulgent emotions feel good but are bad for you Being led by your emotions- Emotions are powerful but make bad leaders As always, I pull out examples from my life to show you how these barriers have shown up in my life. I hope you will recognise your dreams’ limitations and take preemptive action. Resources: Joy or Pain: Emotional Decision Making– Episode 6, Living Inside Out When Life Stops– A podcast on grief Connect Have you subscribed to this podcast? Why don’t you do so on your favourite podcast app? Then head to Youtube.com/toksaruoture to watch and subscribe to my show, Living Inside Out. I would LOVE to connect with you on social; let’s stay in touch at toksauoture.com and hang out together on Instagram- @toksaruoture and on Facebook, Living Inside Out
Recognising The Pieces of Your Dreams
Did you know that the pieces of your dream are scattered on your path? Signposts and suggestions, directions and instructions, are all snippets or at least indications of the complete picture of your life, and as you journey, you are meant to pick them up. In this episode, I pull out lessons from the early days of running my business and how I learned to recognise the pieces of my imagined future. I believe that we are all designed with everything we need to manifest our hearts’ desires, but we pick up pieces that are not part of the picture because we are sensual beings. I faced many rejections, no doubt you have, and it is tempting to interpret a rejection of your request from individuals as the rejection of your dream by the world. Cultivating a habit of looking for the diamond in the rough will ensure these misinterpretations of events do not trip you up. Learn to find the lesson in the difficulty, as opposed to the nearest exit, so you can become suitably skilled to operate in that dream. My hope is that by the end of this episode, you will begin to cultivate the practice of recognising the parts of your future that are strewn around while also identifying the blockers that stop you from picking them up. Watch: I had the honour of being a guest on the maiden episode of Metamorphoo, a new talk show that tackles topics Christians tend to shy away from. Watch the replay Listen Check out this interesting episode where I talked about the sterility of ideas birthed from yours and the opinions of others. Just like hybrids Episode 4: Other people’s Opinions Connect Head to youtube.com/toksaruoture to watch and subscribe to my show, Living Inside Out. I would LOVE to connect with you on social; let’s stay in touch at toksauoture.com and hang out together on Instagram- @toksaruoture and on Facebook, Living Inside Out
What to Do When the World feels Bleak
If like me you are feeling somewhat heavy from all the bleak news around, this episode is for you. There’s a well-known saying that says a boat does not sink because of the water around it, it only sinks because of the water that gets inside it. If we are going to thrive and fulfil the purpose we were created for, we’ve got to fortify our insides, while at the same time, making sure the water around us does not get inside us. I share three tips on how to do just that: Affirmations Make sure you are affirming a truth that’s stronger than the lie that’s inserting itself into your psyche. Get a New Perspective Talk to someone you trust and respect to help you describe what they see from their viewpoint. Often we only see one side of the picture because we are limited in our view. You’ll be surprised that there are truths you have not yet considered, which will paint a more positive picture than the one you are seeing. Slow Down We have a tendency to do more, be more and acquire more in response to when our world feels like it is lacking. We don’t become more by adding to what we have, we become more by removing the excess baggage that’s causing the overwhelm. As usual, I pull out lessons and examples from my life and business to help you see where you need to make changes. Don’t forget to subscribe to and review the Living Inside Out podcast. In other news, visit Living Inside Out on YouTube! Here I hold a different type of conversation with you, with friends and with experts. Head to Youtube.com/toksaruoture to watch and subscribe. I would LOVE to connect with you on social; let’s stay in touch at toksauoture.com and hang out together on Instagram- @toksaruoture and on Facebook Living Inside Out I wish you a wonderful rest of the week, thank you for being you!
Rest Over Stress: Choosing a New Way to Grow
“How well do you work under stress?” This is a question asked during interviews, and if you answer in the affirmative, you score some brownie points. In our society, working and living under stress is almost celebrated to the point where we question ourselves when life is going too smoothly. In this episode, I share a discovery I made during my recent vacation; the possibility of living and growing from rest. I believe our soul gravitates towards its most pressing need, while the body is drawn to the things that bring pleasure. If you desire tranquillity over much activity, you need to rest. Rest does not have to be a separate, scheduled event. You can operate from a place of rest. Choose activities that move you to reflect so that your actions are sparked off by your internal GPS. Because no points will be given for having a battered body. There are no awards for being the most exhausted either. Benefits of Rest: 1. It kickstarts intrinsic motivation, leading to the desired destination. The flip side is being externally motivated. This may get you started but will not guarantee long term results. Because by quietening the noise all around you, you get to hear what really matters. The internal GPS. 2. Rest helps you notice what matters. Rest reveals the elephant carved out of the rock, so you see an elephant when you look. Not a distorted rock. (Listen to hear the full illustration) 3. Rest alerts you to what you are feeding on. When you extend the concept of rest to the amount and mix of information you ingest, you become aware of how much junk we are offered daily. I am excited to hear your thoughts on this episode, and can I ask that you kindly share it with three people you believe will benefit from listening to it. This podcast is available on all podcast platforms including Apple Podcast, Castbox, Spotify and more. Simply search ‘Living Inside Out with Toks.’ Also, please give it a five-star review wherever you’re listening, thank you! Resources: Head to Youtube.com/toksaruoture to watch and subscribe to my show, Living Inside Out. I would LOVE to connect with you on social; let’s stay in touch at toksauoture.com and hang out together on Instagram- @toksaruoture and on Facebook, Living Inside Out And finally, check out the Goal Achievers’ Mastermind Group and join the waiting list for the next cohort.
Rest over Stress: Choosing a new way to grow
“How well do you work under stress?” This is a question asked during interviews, and if you answer in the affirmative, you score some brownie points. In our society, working and living under stress is almost celebrated to the point where we question ourselves when life is going too smoothly. In this episode, I share a discovery I made during my recent vacation; the possibility of living and growing from rest. I believe our soul gravitates towards its most pressing need, while the body is drawn to the things that bring pleasure. If you desire tranquillity over much activity, you need to rest. Rest does not have to be a separate, scheduled event. You can operate from a place of rest. Choose activities that move you to reflect, so your actions are sparked by your internal GPS. Because no points will be given for having a battered body. There are no awards for being the most exhausted either. Benefits of Rest: 1. It kickstarts intrinsic motivation, leading to the desired destination. The flip side is being externally motivated. This may get you started but will not guarantee long-term results. Because by quietening the noise all around you, you get to hear what matters. The internal GPS. Rest helps you notice what matters. Rest reveals the elephant carved out of the rock, so you see an elephant when you look. Not a distorted rock. (Listen to hear the full illustration) Rest alerts you to what you are feeding on. When you extend the concept of rest to the amount and mix of information you ingest, you become aware of how much junk we are offered daily. I am excited to hear your thoughts on this episode, and can I ask that you kindly share it with three people you believe will benefit from listening to it? Also, please give it a five-star review wherever you’re listening. Resources: Head to Youtube.com/toksaruoture to watch and subscribe to my show, Living Inside Out. I would LOVE to connect with you on social; let’s stay in touch at toksauoture.com and hang out together on Instagram- @toksaruoture and on Facebook, Living Inside Out. And finally, check out the Goal Achievers’ Mastermind Group and join the waiting list for the next cohort.
