The (ugly) Cost of Cynicism
Cynicism is ugly. It will steal opportunities from you by whispering in your ear that the opportunity is here to take advantage of you. Your comfort zone’s boundary line comprises limiting beliefs and holding hands in a circle. If you are going to break into new territory, you have to confront such mindsets, cynicism is one of them. Cynicism is doubt or disbelief in the professed motives and goodness of others and, by extension, in social and ethical norms and values. It is accompanied by mistrust, scorn and pessimism. Not only is this mindset a limiting one, but it is also unsightly. Cynicism leaves a bad smell wherever it goes and will cost you if you let it stay. Have you lost opportunities because you believed they were out to get you? Have you lost out on relationships because you ‘just knew’ they were being insincere? Do you find yourself scornful of others’ joy when you’re in a group? These are just some of the traits of cynicism; episode #52 is all about how this practice will prevent you from propelling forward. Resources: Head to Youtube.com/toksaruoture to watch and subscribe to my show, Living Inside Out. I would LOVE to connect with you on social; let’s stay in touch at toksauoture.com and hang out together on Instagram- @toksaruoture and on Facebook, Living Inside Out. And finally, check out the Goal Achievers’ Mastermind Group, which begins on the 5th of March 2022
How to Navigate Through 2022 | New Year Resolution
How do you handle challenges? Have past challenges affected your new year resolution? Do you go through them or grow through them? Last year served us some unique challenges which many are still trying to navigate. I believe problems arrive on our path to test our strength as well as to teach us. Simply waiting for the challenge to end will not move you further on your path; so it makes sense to grow through it- even when you can’t see the light at the end. In this exciting episode, I chat with my best friend as we swap stormy stories from our lives and businesses- and what we learned from each . Some of the lessons we garnered are: AUTHENTICITY This is the power of showing up as you. We share reasons why you should be true to yourself and to the reasons you do what you do. PEOPLE PLEASING The danger of people-pleasing and why you should ignore what others expect from you. Don’t hitch your future to other people’s opinions. People change their minds as they encounter new experiences; where will that leave you? Why don’t you add ditch people-pleasing to this year’s New Year resolution? GUARD YOUR THOUGHTS Why you must – because your thoughts spark off actions that create your life. As you think, so are you. It’s time to stop planning and time to take action! Watch my 60-second tip on how planning holds you back from doing. DREAM SMALL The need to dream small because sometimes dreaming big is overwhelming! The little dreams are valuable pieces of your big dreams. ABUNDANCE MINDSET Get an abundance mindset there are other currencies besides cash. The abundance mindset does not rely on physical forms of wealth. It knows that it is connected to an eternal source, and it will never run out of resources. “Abundance is NOT the gathering of things.” So Subscribe, Like and Share and I can’t wait for us to dive in! Also, leave a comment below to let me know if the topics mentioned have affected your resolutions for 2022. Journaling workshop Join me on the 29th of January for a fun and practical workshop on how to journal for growth. Journaling shouldn’t be merely recording events for memory’s sake, but it can be used as a tool to propel forward to a new opportunity. Find out more and reserve your space. Let’s Connect: INSTAGRAM, FACEBOOK, LINKEDIN, TWITTER @toksaruoture www.toksaruoture.com Ask me Anything: [email protected] PODCAST: LIVING INSIDE OUT WITH TOKS https://bit.ly/3nH2oh5 Living Inside Out Podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcast, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Castbox, etc.
Practical Abundance: Living Life Without Limits
Episode #49 is packed with many gems. I am excited to share some more on the abundance mindset in this episode, following on from the previous one. To recap; Abundance is a mindset. It is not the things you own There’s a difference between an abundance mindset and a lack or poverty mentality. Poverty hides true wealth. And by this, I mean your mind and body can only accommodate so much. By freeing up some of the good but useless stuff, you have room for the better. But even more importantly, poverty covers the seeds you would have planted to yield good fruit. While it is helpful to learn about abundance, it is even more important to practice it. The reason we adopt healthy mindsets is so that we can live healthy lives. Creating an abundance mindset will lead to you living in abundance. We consist of spirit, soul, and body. Many people focus only on the physical form of wealth, the part that our senses perceive; that’s what we tend to go after. But I believe true wealth, even the physical kind, is a by-product of walking in our purpose. So it follows then that if we are to live fully, we have to ensure that our spirit and mind embrace and align with abundance. Practical ways to live in abundance are: You are a river, not a pond. See yourself as a river that’s open at one end to receive from God, and open at the other to give to the world. Think of freshwater bubbling along, never stagnating or pooling up; that’s what your available resource looks like. A pond mentality, on the other hand, relies on rain and precipitation as its source. Infrequent and uncertain in its availability. A pond has no outlet except by evaporation, and this translates into the vicissitudes of life. Seeing yourself connected to a limitless God will transform your thinking from lack to plenty. Give without expecting anything in return. Giving breaks the poverty mindset faster than anything else. Because you can’t give what isn’t present. Giving alerts you to the blessings in your own life and elevates your position from the recipient to the benefactor. Practice Gratitude Gratitude alerts you to just how blessed you are; it opens your eyes to what you have instead of what you are lacking. Generosity keeps your line of vision clear so you can identify hidden opportunities. Write your definition of success. You are a unique being, and no one has the secret code to your success. We are bombarded with instructions on how to be successful, what we must do every morning and the exact steps to fulfil our purpose. Suppose you follow other people’s opinions on success. In that case, you will end up frustrated as your search for resources will be futile. Your supplies are found on your path, not on someone else’s. Dream Small Because everyone tells us to ‘dream big’, but big dreams don’t always inspire us to act. Sometimes big dreams discourage us as we don’t have the space or faith to see it happen. When this is the case, dream small. Your big goal consists of multiple small dreams that lead to the grand finale. Even when that materialises, you will dream again. Listen to the full episode and subscribe to my YouTube channel so you don’t miss a thing! Save these Dates for your diary: 3/12/2021 YouTube Channel Launch The First Episode of Living Inside Out on YouTube will be going live! Think the podcast on steroids đ. Join me for a show packed full of inspiration, how to’s, business tips, interviews, and so much more. If we are not yet connected on social, let’s do so; my handle is @toksaruoture and please, spread the word. 11/12/2021 Christian Women in Business: Finding God in the Most Unlikely Places A free Zoom meeting for Sisters in Business. I feel such a burden to have an evening sharing my business journey and testimonies of how God got me out of situations that I couldn’t see my way out of. My goal is to show you how to find God in seemingly impossible places while on your business journey. 16/01/2022 Introspective Journaling for Personal Growth. You all know that my journal is my best friend. And it isn’t because it contains secrets and memories, but because writing is a powerful tool for discovering who you are, your purpose, your intentions and also for mapping out your dreams. Journalling is the most potent tool bar none because it extracts the powerful truths from your mind, which is the engine room of your life. Resources: From Prison to Praise– book on giving thanks Netflix: The Black Godfather- documentary on Clarence Avant The Light’s House Online Church Negations for Growth– episode on making agreements
Cultivating an Abundance Mindset
What exactly is an abundance mindset and how does one get one? I didn’t discover the abundance mindset while searching for it- I’d tried chasing after wealth and failed. I was trying to figure out why my present state at the time did not align with what God had promised. In fact, it looked like my life was running away from the blessings that were supposedly chasing after me. What Abundance is Not Abundance is not the acquisition of material things. It is first a mindset. And unless you cultivate it, you cannot live in true abundance. People who define it as wealth spend their lives chasing money. The poverty mindset begins with the belief that the ownership of wealth is the single marker for abundance. In this inspiring episode, I share three truths I discovered about living in abundance: Abundance is a mindset Abundance is not the amassing of things A poverty mindset hides true wealth. How to Cultivate an Abundance Mindset I also share a tip on how to cultivate an abundance mindset, whch will help you understand out how the things you are holding on to obscures your view of the future. Did you know that holding on to the past does your future a disservice? Learn from my example where I held on to and paid for storage- for years, for items that belonged in my past. Some things have an expiry date, a time when it’s role in your life comes to an end. This is particularly true for material things and when you clutch that which should be free, you end up obscuring your view of more valuable things. Listen to the full episode to discover how to cultivate the state of mind needed for a rich and fulfiling life. Resources: As a Man Thinketh– Bible Verse As a Man Thinketh– Book From Prison to PraiseEp #36 The Future is Superior to the Present Save the date! The 3rd of December is the release date of my YouTube Channel! It’s going to be packed full of inspiration and precious gems that will cause you to unearth the hidden treasure you’ve been carrying. Let’s connect on social: I’m at @toksaruoture on the major platforms and would LOVE to connect with you. If you’d like to join my friends’ list so you can get behind the scenes and be inspired by even more life and business lessons đ If you have not yet subscribed to this podcast, kindly do so and reveiw it too so others who want to live from the inside out can find us. Have a great week ahead! Thank youđđđžđ¸đ And thank you for 5,000 downloads! To think that I was relunctant to start this podcast because of the limiting beliefs that I wouldnât carry on? Using my voice to share authentically carries a level of vulnerability and I am grateful to you for giving me the space to do so đ§Ą
Are You Too Busy? How Excessive Activity Can Derail Your Future
How do you deal with overwhelm? Do you even recognise when it is time to pause? Many entrepreneurs struggle to create enough room to function, this can lead to overworking. As a one who has run her own business for 15 years, I understand that there is a difference between being busy and being productive- but I sometimes struggle to recognise which is which. Having spent the last couple of months being excessively busy, I am excited to share with you, the lessons I learned. My hope is that you will come to identify and isolate that which is good and needed while you discard the good yet unnecessary in your life. Lessons learned:Create Margins. Everything of value has a space around it; that’s how you can tell it apart from its surroundings. Being too busy will remove those margins, erase the boundaries between tasks and stop you from recognising that which is meaningful to you. Read: Control your mind to control your life Declutter Do not limit decluttering to your physical space; be intentional about the conversations you hold and the thoughts you think too. Every useful information isn’t necessarily needed by you.. Keep your vision in front of you In pictorial, words or a physical reminder, having your destination in plain sight will keep you working on the big picture; that way you do not get bugged down with tiny little details- which keep you busy. Read or Listen: Entrepreneurship: Big Vision, Low Budget  Exciting announcement: I’ll be starting my YouTube channel soon, keep an eye outđ Read my interviews this month in: The Flock Magazine 20 Questions with Toks Aruoture The Baby Cot Shop Blog Mums who Manifest Connect with me: Stay in touch at toksauoture.com and lets hang out together on Instagram- @toksaruoture and on Facebook  Living Inside Out
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âThe key is not to panic. Iâve lost a business before, due to recession, so I didnât fear financial loss. I knew it wouldnât kill me and we could bounce back.”
